I should be really blogging more about this pregnancy as I am finding that reading my blogs and looking at my pictures from Xander’s pregnancy are really helping me along.
So tomorrow is our mid pregnancy ultrasound and we will hopefully learn the sex of the baby. I am really excited about this because if I end up having a girl I’ll have another shower and I have a few things that I am waiting on buying until we know the sex, like a belly button ring like this or a crib. And I want to get on with the big name search we are all set if we are having a girl she will be Zoey Morgan but if we are having a little boy it could be Owen, Westly or James David. I like James David the best.
I have been doing ok with weight gain although its something I really need to be mindful of every day. I am at 175 but will probably come down to 173 because I think those other two are just water weight. So if you count the 175 number I am up 9lbs at 18 weeks. During Xander’s pregnancy I was up 12lbs by this time.
On none weight related items I am feeling great. This pregnancy is much different from Xander’s I just feel much larger and like it is harder than his was but I can’t put it into exactly what it is. It is nice that i am so busy and I don’t spend all day every day thinking about this pregnancy, I spent way to much time thinking and talking about nothing but baby during my last pregnancy.
So tomorrow is my first real midwife appointment and I feel so nervous. I just have to say it, I don’t feel that pregnant and haven’t now for two weeks so I am afraid we aren’t going to hear a heartbeat on the doppler. Oh how I hate this time of pregnancy when its still early enough something can really happen and I might not know for some time.
Oh a good note I haven’t had any bad symptoms either like bleeding or cramping, so I will keep telling myself that tomorrow morning I’m going to hear the glorious heartbeat of a little boo and then I can get really excited about being pregnant and maybe go out and buy something for myself and for the baby.
Oh and I’m going to go run 5 miles in the woods after my appointment for practice for my race coming up on the 24th.
So we don’t know what the baby is yet, but we are pretty set on a girls name as we have had a lot longer to think about that one. But I have been playing around on Nymbler.com to find names I like and here is a list of my top favorites so far.
What do you think?
Corbin
Mason
Quentin
Kadin
Hunter
Tristan
Reed
Reid
Liam
Talon
Finn
Lane
Hudson
Luca
Garrett
Kai
It only took 15 months, but we made our first trip to the ER last night.
So we had a great Saturday at home playing in the yard and getting the sandbox ready. Then I made some ribs for dinner and we had strawberries and whipped cream for desert. After all that I was picking up around the house and Xander was helping me as he usually does just picking things up and carrying them around. . .well I went into the other room to throw some stuff in the garbage and he started screaming this blood curdling scream that I knew something was really really wrong.
I ran back into the living room from the kitchen and he had picked up a Wilson’s leather hanger and had fallen with it in his mouth and it was lodged in the back of his mouth.
He was pouring blood and I just freaked yelling for my husband to get the keys so we could ride to the ER while trying to get Xander to not pull it out, which he ended up doing anyway. My husband called 911, and we live like 1 block from the fire department so they where their in like 1.5 minutes. After looking at it they suggested we go to the hospital and Xander had stopped crying by them to look at the firetruck outside, although he was still spitting out tons of blood.
He had stopped bleeding by the time we left the house and I thought we should just take him to urgent care to save some money and I saw the wound in the back of his mouth and new they couldn’t suture or stitch it since its a puncture but my MIL insisted that we should go to the ER and we did.
It didn’t take too long we where home by 9:45 and he is feeling clingy but better today they said to rinse it 3-4 times a day with salt water and have him on soft foods for 3 or 4 days.
So today I am 9 weeks 3 days pregnant and most of my symptoms have gone away. I am no longer feeling sick although I am feeling lightheaded from time to time and a little dizzy. I would like that to go away as I don’t really want to just pass out at any point.
Other things that are going on right now. Well we have decided to get rid of our dogs. It breaks my heart and every day that goes by with them still here makes me sadder and sadder. I just wish someone would take them both and give them a loving home. I can feel my uterus if I lay down just above my pubic bone I think it’s a little bit early I had such a hard time feeling it last time. I think i know what to feel for this time but it also seems more pronounced.
I need to start getting to the gym and I am going to talk to Dave about picking up Xander a few times per week so I can get a workout in after work before dinner. My 5 mile trail run is coming up and I’m kind of nervous because I haven’t been feeling good enough to run. Friday it is supposed to be 70+ degrees outside so I am going to the metro park to run with my little man, maybe I’ll meet my mom or a friend there.
We found out about two weeks ago on a Friday and then that Monday I went to the midwife’s office to get a dating ultrasound because I’m still breastfeeding Xander and I have only had two periods since he was born so the time line was very large in which we could have conceived the new baby. Turns out we conceived in late January/early February and we have a due date of October 31st, but more than likely we will be having an early November baby.
So far this pregnancy has been totally different than Xander’s pregnancy in the fact that I am feeling very sick all of the time. I didn’t have nearly any morning sickness with Xander I just felt tired. This time I feel sick after everytime I eat and I just started feeling tired within the last few days. See if you can point out something that looks strange on the ultrasound.
So Xander and I took a trip to Florida with my mom last week. It was a really nice trip, we were visiting my grandpa and grandma. They couldn’t stop talking about how well behaved Xander was and how happy he was always chatting and laughing.
The first day we were there we found this great playground close to their house that had two separate playgrounds one for over 5 and one for under 5. I wish we had one like that here at home because it was wonderful. Xander is fearless and has now deiced his favorite way to go down the slide is head first, lol. Well that night we went to the Sarasota Circus and Xander thought it was the greatest thing ever. I think he liked the one handed juggler and the dogs dressed as lions the best. There was also this little girl behind us that was the same age as him and they held hands several times. We had to leave before the show was over because he was getting tired but he made it from 7 until 9.
The next day it was really nice like 70 degrees and sunny so we packed up and went to Siesta Key, where the beach sand is white and soft. He loved it, he walked up and down the beach chasing the birds and running into the water. You would never had guessed that the water was only 56 degrees. Below are some pictures of him playing in the sand.
He is great when traveling and being an attached parent makes such a difference when your schedule is unpredictable and when your environment changes. When you have a secure attachment with your child and them with you it is easier on the child when their environment changes because the thing that they know they need will still be there . . . you. You are never searching for the missing pacifier or the lost lovey. And it’s easier to get your little one to sleep in a bed they know you are going to joining them in later. It’s not a strange crib or pack n play in a strange room.
So I have to admit that I have been thinking about having another baby. Not today or even this year but we will probably start to try again at the end of this year. So that also leads me to think about birth, and how I want to have my future babies.
I have always known that home birth is quite safe when attended by a midwife and with proper prenatal care in a low risk pregnancy. Since everything went really well with Xander’s birth I am thinking that home birth might be a possibility for subsequent pregnancies as long as I remain low risk and the pregnancies themselves remain low risk.
During my studying about home birth I recently came across a new study, published in the current edition of the Medical Journal of Australia showing that “perinatal mortality rate similar to that for planned hospital births, but a sevenfold higher risk of intrapartum death”.
Here is a great rebuttle of the information provided on the surface of the study from an Australian blog, Croakey. Some of the most important parts are listed below:
The facts are there was no difference in perinatal mortality (stillbirths, and neonatal deaths within 28 days of birth) between home and hospital (7.9 vs. 8.2 per 1000 births). For those actually born at home the perinatal mortality rate is 2.5 per 1000 births, which is comparatively low.
There were no differences in Apgar scores (how well babies are at birth) or admission to Neonatal Intensive Care Units between the two groups. Infants born at home were half as likely to receive specialized neonatal care compared to planned hospital birth.
Three of the deaths were thought to be potentially preventable and related to the model of care. These were the baby born after the waterbirth at home; the second twin who was born after an intrapartum transfer– and the baby born after being very postdates. Therefore, there were 3 deaths in 16 years – two of which had risk factors present. That means that there was only one death where there were no risk factors in the 16 year period.
There were a number of positive benefits. There was significantly less intervention in homebirth group: caesarean section rate of 9.2% (home) vs. 27.1% (hospital) (one third less); instrumental birth rate of 4.4% (home) vs. 12.8% (hospital) (one third less); episiotomy rates of 3.6% (home) vs. 21.7% (hospital) (one sixth less). Planned homebirth women were three times more likely not to have perinea trauma than the planned hospital group (there was seven years missing data on episiotomy and perineal injury). None of this appeared in the media.
